Once again, I’m thinking about my decisions. Decisions are basically just making a selection from a series of choices. And then I realized that I always think that I’m terrible at making choices. Put a menu with more than a few good choices in front of me and you’ll see what I mean. And if I’m that bad at making the simple choices, imagine how I am with the big ones.
Then I reminded myself that everything is exactly as it should be. Which means that maybe I’m not so bad at making decisions. With that perspective, I’m actually pretty good at making decisions, because I’m right where I’m supposed to be. Which means that you’re really good at making decisions too.
Yes, it’s Panglossian. And while there’s no real “right or wrong,” it feels really good to think that every decision was right to bring us right here and right now.
Listen Up Before You Make a Decision
When making decisions we’ve all said, “listen to your gut.” But I’m coming to see that this statement is redundant. We always listen to our intuition. We just make decisions by either listening with our ego or with our essence.
The Ego & The Essence
Decisions which filter through the ego are pretty easy to identify. Ego-based decisions are well, all about you. They are the ones which serve momentary wants. And also cater to our dislikes, as well. They are the selfish little side in all of us seeking (temporary) experiences which maximize some feeling, or minimize some dissonance. No matter the consequences, and regardless of the possibilities. They’re all about you, right here, right now, baby.
But to make a decision by listening with our essence is different. The essence has a longer view. Intuition filtered through our essence means we listen to the wisdom which considers the temporary nature of all circumstances. It compares temporary experiences with the long standing consequences and possibilities. Our essence embraces that all things, people, and feelings move in and out of our lives. And unlike the ego, the essence considers everything without selfish attachment. To listen to our intuition through the ears of our essence offers our true selves the purest enjoyment. Because our essence knows who we truly are and what will be the best possible experience for the individual.
How to Make a Decision
Before you make a decision you need to find your essence. And your essence is in the stillness. Behind the obvious chatter of the ego driving you ever forward on a chase for the unreachable “more.” It’s the place where “right” feels indescribably more right. And once you find it, you may find yourself seeking this stillness before making decisions. Because while making decisions in this way nurtures your confidence, the results of decisions made from this place are some of the most rewarding life experiences.
To get started finding this stillness, start listening to the feelings your thoughts conjure. Then ask yourself, “Ego or Essence?” You’ll definitely know the answer.