In the early stages of this blog I penned something I have been saying for years. Relationships should complement you, not complicate you. And while I didn’t start taking my own advice on the subject until recently, it really is true.
But I realized during this morning’s insightful meditation that there is more to that thought. Because what are our people complementing? Not our physical reality. That’s just our stuff…or helping to take care of our stuff. They’re not complementing us to make us who we are, because that type of complementary relationship is what turns into unsustainable expectations.
What our interactions with others is complementing is how we perceive our happiness. They’re complementing our thoughts about how we would like to experience happiness in our outer reality. And every time we are willing to sacrifice any of our thoughts about happiness for what someone else represents in our lives, we are telling ourselves that our ideas and experience of happiness aren’t as important as we’d like to think. Which means it is our thoughts around our happiness which need work.
It’s simple. We cannot change someone else because they negatively affect our happiness. People either complicate or complement our vision. So don’t change your vision, change how you interact with what affects that vision.