When people look to sex toys they’re likely looking to spruce things up in the bedroom. Maybe they’re even looking to get something back. Whatever the reason you’re thinking of adding a sex toy to your life, here are a few things to consider when making the choice between a dildo and a vibrator.
But before we dive in…
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Dildo vs Vibrator – What’s the Difference?
Even though there are all kinds of sex toy combos these days, for the sake of this blog, we’ll keep things straightforward. In their truest definitions, there really is no comparison. The dildo and vibrator are different animals. Yes, they are both for sexual stimulation and masturbation, but the bottom line is the dildo is (generally) for penetration and does not vibrate. Whereas a vibrator does in fact live up to its name. There are ample combinations of dildo vibrators, but again, let’s keep it simple…which will hopefully keep things less expensive at the sex shop, too.
Each can be used on either sex in some fashion or another, but the men I know who have experienced the wallop of the vibrator on their manly bits tend to find them to be wildly overstimulating.
Dildos
Prostate and G-Spot stimulation aside, in order to take a look at dildos, we must take a look at the realities of female penetration. Truth is, most women do not reach climax through penetration alone. The clitoris is infinitely more sensitive than the vagina. Actually, only one-quarter of women reach orgasm through penetration…which just isn’t good enough for me.
Ladies, if you’re looking for a new sensation, a dildo can be used for manual stimulation of the clitoris as well. It’s like using your fingers, but not. It only moves as fast as you move it, and it can be whomever you want it to be. Think Mr. Darcy, think your neighbor, think whomever turns you on. It’s about the erotic thought while using the dildo because, as I’ve been saying, sex is mostly mental. But it has its limitations, too. A dildo needs a clitoral adaptor (obviously) to tend to both clitoral stimulation and penetration at the same time, if you care to have both.
Yeeees, we’ve all seen the porn where women cum solely on the use of a dildo. But remember every woman is different and the majority of us need clitoral stimulation…or nipple stimulation, or mental stimulation… Do you see where I’m going with this? That’s right, it’s all about stimulation, which leads me to vibrators.
Vibrators
Vibrators are a lovely, muscle tightening, eyes rolling back, brain bending, delicious addition to the bedroom. Vibrator adaptors for your dildos are extremely useful. Vibrators alone are extremely useful. Have I mentioned vibrators are extremely useful? Often times they’re a handsfree experience, leaving you to your imagination, which is oh so handy (pun!). But I’m not 100% in the vibrator camp.
Vibrator Drawbacks
Anything with batteries, wires, etc. gives me pause, as they will require a bit more consideration when cleaning. I know, sounds lazy, but I know me. I need low-impact. You don’t need to worry about electronics when it comes to most dildos. But there is still a more relevant drawback to using a vibrator.
“What drawback?!” you ask. Well, it’s not what you think. Just like being told that masturbation will cause hair to grow on your hands, being told that using a vibrator on your clitoris will reduce sensitivity is not something you need to worry about. It’s false. What you do need to pay attention to are the mental implications. That’s right, ladies and gents, we’re back to my favorite topic. Because if you haven’t noticed, sex is f*cking mental!
Think of your vibrator like karma, no matter where you focus your vibe, the feeling will come back. What you need to keep in mind are your thoughts about your handy dandy little tool. Just thinking about sex without your buzzy friend can cause stress. And that’s the key. Stress is a bitch, and there’s no reason to turn something so damn good into a high stress scenario. Always remember, there can be too much of a good thing. Find a good vibe with the vibration and don’t forget to explore new and old sensations. Essentially, putting down the vibrator and changing things up a bit from time to time is a good thing.
Dildo or Vibrator – Whichever You Choose, Keep it Clean
Like everything in life, whether you choose a dildo or a vibrator, it’s personal preference. Just be sure to keep them clean! Seriously, don’t put anything in any of your whohas without ensuring they’ve been properly cleaned. Also make sure that they’re made of materials which are safe for putting in your body. Because what goes in those tasty little spots can get into your blood and has to be processed through your natural filtration system. Yet another reason to keep your toys (including your hands) clean!
Sex Toy Smorgasbord
We know that literotica is a great sex toy for men and women. We also know that dildos and vibrators are great sex toys for men and women. It seems only natural to bring them together.
Just remember that although sex toys are fun, fun, fun, we don’t need to make the bedroom so complex. We don’t need to put such pressure on ourselves, or on the toys we hope will save our sex lives. We need to get out of our heads and into the bedroom.
Now…imagine laying in bed reading your favorite sex story. Close your eyes and find that it’s you whose mind and body are being perfectly stimulated.
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